沟通的目的，并不是不断证明别人的错处，而是与对方建立良好关系 _小知识

沟通的目的，并不是不断证明别人的错处，而是与对方建立良好关系。
The purpose of communication is not to prove others' mistakes constantly, but to establish a good relationship with each other.
因此，不妨让沟通的对方不失立场，同时也可以让他以另一个角度来衡量事情，而由他自己决定什么是好，什么是坏。
Therefore, let the communicating partner not lose his position, but also let him measure things from another angle, and let him decide what is good and what is bad.
因为凡事无所谓对错，只是适不适合你而已，沟通的道理也是。
【沟通的目的，并不是不断证明别人的错处，而是与对方建立良好关系】Because there is no right or wrong in everything, just whether it suits you or not, so is the truth of communication.
再次，当表达不同意见时，如果并不赞同对方的想法，但还是要仔细听听他话中真正的意思，可以用“很赞同……同时”的模式。
Thirdly, when expressing different opinions, if you don't agree with the other party's ideas, but you still have to listen carefully to the true meaning of his words, you can use the mode of "strongly agree with … at the same time".
比如当想要表达不同意见时，不应该说是“你这样说是没错，但我认为……”，应该采取一种委婉的方式，“我很感激你的意见，我觉得这样非常好，同时我有另一种看法，来互相研究一下，到底什么方法对彼此都好。”
For example, when you want to express different opinions, you shouldn't say, "You are right to say so, but I think …", but you should adopt a tactful way, "I appreciate your opinions, I think this is very good, and I have another view, so we can study each other and find out what methods are good for each other."
重点是顶尖沟通者，都有方法能进入别人的频道，让别人喜欢他，从而获得信任，表达了意见也易被对方采纳。
The key point is that top communicators have ways to access other people's channels, make others like him, gain trust, and express their opinions easily to be adopted by the other party.
罗杰斯曾说：倾听是一个人可以给另一个人最珍贵的礼物。
Rogers once said: Listening is the most precious gift one can give another.
（上述中文来源百度号：一个心理咨询师。图片来源网络。若侵权联系删除）

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