有时候，你会觉得他在践踏你的感受，但事实上，他有可能只是迷糊盲目却不自知而已 。你丈夫将常常忘记要做的事 。他也将会说些蠢话 。请给与他最大的谅解 。意识到他的所言所行通常并无恶意 。他并非故意伤害你或故意不去做事情 。

Don’t allow him to tell you your place or define your aspirations: When you get married, you may want to be a stay-at-home mom. Five years into marriage, you my decide you want to become a lawyer. Or perhaps when you get married you may be a lawyer, and five years in you might decide you want to become a stay-at-home mom. Your husband will most likely do something similar with his life goals. A successful marriage is one where both partners expect and support positive change 。

不要让你的丈夫告诉你什么是你的自我定位和个人愿望 。当你结婚时，也许你想当个全职妈妈 。婚后5年，也许你决定成为一名律师 。或者当你结婚时，你想当一名律师，但5年之后，你想做一个全职妈妈 。你的丈夫也极有可能为了他的人生目标而做类似的事情 。一段成功的婚姻是夫妻两都期待并支持积极的改变 。

Your husband is your partner, not your master: Never forget that you are equals 。

你的丈夫是你的爱人，不是你的主人 。永远不要忘记你们是平等的 。

Expect him to change with age (both physically and emotionally)： Most likely your husband will get a little fatter over the years. He will grow more mature. He will go a little gray and a little bald. You will change, too. But at the same time, he will become different emotionally and intellectually. He will grow more mature. So much of a successful marriage is accepting and understanding change within your partner. As long as those changes are natural and positive, let them happen 。

无论是生理还是心理上，期待他随着年龄的增长会有相应改变 。几年后，你丈夫很有可能会变胖 。他的头发会变白，也会开始谢顶 。你也会发生改变 。但是与此同时，他的情商智商也会不同了 。他会更加成熟稳重 。所以一段成功的婚姻也是不断接受和理解彼此的变化 。只要是所有的变化都是自然且积极的，就让一切都顺其自然 。

Don’t be afraid to frustrate your husband: This is a good thing. Keep him on his toes. Questioning his motivations and his sincerity will ultimately make him more aware of his actions 。

别怕打击你的丈夫 。这是好事 。因为可以让他保持警觉 。怀疑他的动机和真诚可以帮助他对个人行为更有意识 。

Expect him to get up in the night with the kids: If your kids take after you, you are going to have some long nights. He will have a lot of excuses as to why he can’t get up. He works in the morning, and he doesn’t want to be tired at work because it’s going to make his job harder. You know what, you have to work, too. You might have a job outside the house, or you might be a stay at home mom. It doesn’t matter. You have stuff to do, same as him, so expect him to help. Marriage is a partnership. Never forget that 。

希望他可以在夜里起床照看孩子 。如果你的孩子和你很像，你将有许多的不眠之夜 。他将会有各种理由解释为什么他起不了床 。他早上得上班，他不想劳累着去工作，因为这会增加他的工作难度 。你知道吗？你也有活干 。你可能有份正式工作，或者你是个全职妈妈 。这都无所谓 。因为你和他一样都有事情对待完成，所以希望他也能帮忙 。婚姻是相互扶持 。永远不要忘记这一点 。

Clint Edwards is the author of No Idea what I’m Doing: a daddy blog. He lives in Oregon. Follow him on Facebook and Twitter. (A version of this essay first appeared on his blog 。)

克林特·爱德华兹是《不知道我在做什么：一位父亲的微博》的作者 。他现居俄勒冈州 。

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